Archive | February 2014

It Doesn’t Matter What Everyone Else Thinks

thinking_thought-bubble_man_doubt_veer_3077149_M[1]I’m not sure when it is exactly, that we begin to worry about what everyone else thinks.   I am trying to think back in my own life and remember when my first experience or awareness of  what other people thought was.   Not just thoughts about things… but about Me!

Everyone has opinions about things and for some reason we have accepted those as just that… an opinion.    Some People are very vocal with their thoughts… opinions… while others will keep it to themselves… and of course there are those that although they say…. nary a word…. you know exactly what they are thinking!
I seem to always have an opinion about something.  It makes life … interesting !   I “think” it is a good thing to have different views of things, and for the most part it doesn’t really add up to much in the long run what you think about a matter or not.  It is simply…. your personal thoughts…. your opinion.

But when it comes to what you think of ME…. for some reason that seems to bother us a little more and we take it to heart!
When we were growing up, we were pretty much around family only, and typically what we heard from those around us….. was they thought we were pretty dog gone awesome!    We were the prettiest or handsomest little 2 year old there ever was…. and smart… Oh My  Goodness…. they thought we were the smartest little thing… I mean how many other 2 year olds knew all of their colors.   We were the best at singing…. at dancing… and there was absolutely no one else that was loved like we were!   Our Parents and Grandparents thought we were A Number 1!

Kindergarten comes around and now we head off to school feeling on top of the world!   We march our little 5 year old bodies up  those 3 huge steps on the school bus and look around to find a place to sit.  We just know there is someone there on that bus full of seats that would love for us to sit down beside them.   But now… we begin to see that not everyone has the same thoughts about us as our family at home does.   Like a scene out of Forrest Gump, we hear and see what other people think of us.    Some are verbal in their thoughts by declaring…. “this seats taken”  (you said that with a southern accent when you read that I am sure) …others… with just “the look”…. and others just turned to pretend they didn’t see your need of a place to sit.   Your perfect little world as you once knew it has now been shaken simply by what others were thinking about you.

From that moment on, a battle begins to rage in our minds… in our hearts.   We begin to ask ourselves….” Is there something wrong with me”…. “do I look funny”… “smell funny” …. “talk funny”.    “What makes me different”?   “There really must be something wrong with me because EVERYONE thinks so!”  Isn’t it funny how our little minds… and well… even our now,  big grown up minds can and will take a handful of people who “think” we are unworthy of love or attention or what ever their opinion is of us… and believe it is EVERYONE!
Some of us now begin to try to please those people by trying to figure out how and what we can change about ourselves so that EVERYONE will “think” they are a great person.  This can become a next to impossible task that can last for years upon years.  We forget who we really are because of the many different people we have to become, just to make sure we fit in to the role of what certain people think we should be.
Some of us will believe that what some people think of us is who we really are and become a loner… depressed… and shy away from everything and everyone.
Some of us, however, will catch the …” I don’t give a flip about what you think about me” attitude and do and say and become who ever they want.   Sometimes for the good…. and sometimes…. not in such a good way!

I am now 50 years old.  It has taken me a long time, it seems to get to the point that it doesn’t really matter what others think about me.  I know that life has thrown me into many situations that has given me the opportunity to grow and become stronger.   I tried to change so many times to accommodate the thinking of others about who I should or shouldn’t be.   Some of the changes I made were actually good.   Some however… not so good.    When trying to change to be who I thought my now ex-husband wanted me to be, I found that once I became one person… he now wanted something else.

I finally learned, after I became a Christian,  that you can never be someone you are not!   The only person you need to please or to care what they thought of you, was God!    Oh… it still took many years to get there… and on some points I am still trying to work through those old ways of thinking.   But… it is coming along, little by little… day by day.

So Today, I was thinking about how good it is to finally get to the point in my life that I just don’t really care about what people think of me…. knowing that I am exactly who God made me to be… and what people think of me is simply nothing more than their opinion, ….when… out of no where…. I believe I heard God say… “you know…. it does matter what people think of you”!

What?   That can’t be God!   I have spent my whole life trying not to let what other people think of me, and now…. it DOES matter what people think of me?????
My walk with God matters.  What He thinks matters!  What I do … and what I say… matters!
As a Christian…. people are watching me.   Some, for no other reason but to watch me mess up!
Some ….are looking for someone who walks the walk as well as talks the talk.

I scroll through Facebook and I see so many “Christians” who are posting things on their wall that are so up lifting.. they have a beautiful scripture that has encouraged many as well as me,  proof by the many comments below the post as well as 30-40 “likes” they have received.    I scroll on down on their page and directly below it is a post that has the “f” word in it or one of the many other colorful words that we have the freedom to express via freedom of speech.  Now… I have immediately began to “think” about the contradiction of principles their wall is screaming to me!   Is that just my “opinion”?  Should they care what “I think”?  After all… we discussed that a few paragraphs up in that we shouldn’t  care what people “think” about us.   Right?

I have many Facebook friends… not all are Christians… and some are very vocal about their non-Christian status.   Those people …. I have blocked from showing up on my news feed because of some of “those” kind of posts.   Those things, although still not “right” in my opinion… are expected from those friends.  They either don’t know any better or don’t care.  I understand that.  So I have chosen to  delete some of them as friends or just block them from showing up every time I log in.

What people think of you… does matter… if… you are representing something or someone!
What you post… what you say…. what you do…. where you go… people WILL and ARE watching you…. and like it or not… they are forming an opinion of you!
If you are proclaiming yourself to be a Christian today… and tomorrow you are showing a different view of yourself….it will eventually catch up with you.   I know that personally,  I don’t want anyone that I love or have been praying for to think at any moment that my walk with God is a show.  When the rubber hits the road and they need a Savior… will they know that I am someone they can trust… or will they just “think” that I am no different from all the other Christian actors, playing the part of who they want to be today.

Does it matter what everyone thinks of me?    What do you think?

James 3:7-10 Message Bible
This is scary: You can tame a tiger, but you can’t tame a tongue—it’s never been done. The tongue runs wild, a wanton killer. With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image. Curses and blessings out of the same mouth!
10-12My friends, this can’t go on. A spring doesn’t gush fresh water one day and brackish the next, does it? Apple trees don’t bear strawberries, do they? Raspberry bushes don’t bear apples, do they? You’re not going to dip into a polluted mud hole and get a cup of clear, cool water, are you?
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Open Up Those Curtains

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Winter seems to drag for me…
I am NOT a fan… (nor a follower)!
It looks like we are on the down swing of the 2013-2014 season and I can not be more excited…
Energy level just seems to sky rocket when the temperatures rise above the 50 mark in February!!!   I think we actually saw 64 yesterday morning before the winter bad man decided to blow
on us some high winds to cool things back down again.
But the morning rolls around and I can see the Sun… the wind is milder… the temperature is already at 44 degrees at 10 AM with a promise to reach 60 once again today!

I have Fridays off so this is really making things much…. much… much better….

UNTIL!!
Let me start here…..I am a pet lover… started out with one Chihuahua in 2006 as a gift to my son… Peanut is a “Taco-Bell” type Chihuahua and therefore … short haired… (still sheds)

3 years later… a lady came into the Pharmacy that I was working at pleading for someone to take her kitten because her older Siamese cat didn’t like her and she was afraid of him hurting her..Of course she is sweet…fixed… and declawed…
I picked up kitty litter and box on the way home from work that day.

3 years ago… I answered a plea on a multi-text message (with picture included…. sad eyes and all) to 19 recipients asking for someone to take this precious Long Haired Chihuahua because the family just couldn’t  take care of her anymore.   Noticing that 19 people were on this message… I responded ..something to the effect of…..”awwweeee….well… if no one else takes her…. let me know”….
Needless to say… NO ONE else wanted her and the text came… almost immediately….”When can I bring her over ?”

Two years later … I am in love with my little Long Haired Chihuahua… Dixie…. as well as the Short Haired Chihuahua … Peanut…and my Cat….Pepper!

Last year….. Colin… my now 19 year old made a trip to the Pet Store with someone just to go along for the ride…. when… all of a sudden…. there…. out of no where (added for dramatics) was this cute little Sheba Inu Puppy!!  Just like the one he has always wanted since playing that virtual pet game years ago on his gameboy!!!

Enter my life now…. I am in love with my Short Haired Chihuahua….. Peanut…. My Cat …. Pepper…. My Long Haired Chihuahua …. Dixie…. and Colin’s Short Haired…. (but 3 times bigger)  …. Sheba Inu…. Bella!

Remember…. this beautiful day I was talking about a bit ago?  Yes… so beautiful that I have even opened up all of the curtains.    And now the Sun… that beautiful Sun that I have been missing for such a long time it seems….is now shining in through my windows!   I now take it all in… soaking in it for minutes on end….breathing deeply as if to breathe in the rays of sunshine.     Oh ….  Thank You God for that Sunshine!!!
Then …  with my “fix” of sunshine running deeply thru me….I turn around to face my home that has been in the dark for several months it seems and …. OMGosh!!!!

NOW I can see dust…. that seems to have been there for what looks like ages!!!!    Seriously???   Has it been that long since I have dusted????
I now also can see…. very clearly that my hard wood floors seem to be trying to “evolve” into a carpeted floor!   Oh …. wait… I am a Christian… I don’t believe in evolution!!!!    So I look closer and see that in reality… my loving pets…. have left part of themselves through out my entire house!!!    Revealed completely and painfully because of that sun!!!   Now what seemed to be acceptable just a few minutes ago… is now… totally UN acceptable and I now have 2 choices……
1) Get out the Vacuum… dust rag… mop… and get to work cleaning… Or
2) Close the curtains and live in the dark .. pretending everything is in order and clean.

I guess I will be spending much of my day off…. cleaning up that revealed mess in my house…
Isn’t it funny how you can live in conditions that you are really unaware of how it really is until that Sun exposes what the darkness had hidden.

Oh wait…. Lesson time….
How many of us are living in the dark…. thinking we are “ok”… thinking that we have everything under control…. that no one… not even us…can see the condition … the true condition of our heart??
As long as we keep the curtain closed around our heart …. keeping the “SONlight” out… we really don’t have to deal with all that mess.    It’s all ok… I… am OK… I feel good about myself.
Look how neat and tidy my life is…. my CHRISTian life…. is spotless.. no worries… no big complaints…. no conviction…no changes necessary!  Keep those curtains closed and you may be able to convince yourself of that for a mighty long time.

I am grateful for the Sun…. I am even more grateful for THE SON!
Both bring warmth… hope… life… to me!
I cant live without either one!
Without them my life is dark… dreary… depressing… !

2 Choices…. Yes… I have a choice….
I think I will leave those curtains open…Letting that beautiful sunshine in..

Ephesians 5:8
For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light!  9For this light within you produces only what is good and right and true.  10Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. 11Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. 12It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret. 13But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them, 14for the light makes everything visible. This is why it is said,

“Awake, O sleeper,
rise up from the dead,
and Christ will give you light.”

Banned

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ban

verb \ˈban\

: to forbid people from using (something) : to say that something cannot be used or done

: to forbid (someone) from doing or being part of something

Scrolling through my newsfeed on my Facebook page a few minutes ago, I came across a post of an article that stated…..

“Kids broken-hearted over school’s Valentine’s Day candy ban”

That one was kind of the last straw for me in this ridiculous, crazy world we are living in!!!

Through out the last few years… and really it hasn’t been that many …. we have become such a touchy…. “I dare you to knock this chip of my shoulder”…. lawsuit happy…. greedy…. selfish…”how dare you look at me that way”…my rights come before your rights…. society that we just have to laugh to keep from crying!!!

Other Crazy mixed up taboos are:

Teachers banned from giving students ‘zeros’ in some Florida schools

Hugging Banned at Connecticut Middle School

Toy Gun Gets Kid Banned From School For Two Years

Kids can not even be kids anymore….all because of something that happened somewhere at sometime… maybe only once…. and so now we make it a “law” so it will never happen again!

This is not even the beginning of what is being banned….
We have banned Jesus from our schools…
We have banned saying Merry CHRISTmas or calling our Tree a CHRISTmas tree…
We have banned any liquids over 2 ounces on Airplanes…
We have banned prayers in our schools….
We have banned songs….books…. videos..
We ban texting and driving…. (and I read somewhere where they have banned texting and WALKING!!
We ban smoking … and fireworks…certain words on TV…(and I am not talking about cuss words)

(… since writing this blog…. there are so many NEW Bans that are just as ….. WRONG…..)

The list ….like the Energizer Bunny….. goes on… and on…and on….and on….
I agree …. some …are very logical… some… are necessary…. but some…. well … come on…. they just are plain silly!!!

This reminds me of a stand up comedy routine that Bill Cosby did years ago… In this section he tells of his kids yelling at each other.   One keeps yelling… “will you stop touching me” … “will you stop touching me”… so he gets up to go check on what all the noise is …. He asks them what is going on and one says…. “she’s touching me”… so thinking he can solve the problem he turns and looks at the offender and says….”quit touching her”…. when she then promptly pops up and says…. “well she touched me first!”….. so now he says something brilliant and declares…. “alright… from now on….I don’t want anybody in this house to touch another person as long as you live!!!”   Sounds like an easy fix for everyone… doesn’t it ?   If no one touches anyone ….. ever… then everyone will be happy…. especially Dad…. because he will finally get the peace that he is so badly wanting….. But in reality… it doesn’t fix anything…. it just adds confusion and  an unrealistic way of life if truly enforced.
Lets think about this for a minute….besides the accidental “touching” that could happen… what about the occasional “need” to be touched?   What if you needed help up from a fall…. or a first aid emergency…. or of course a “good job” pat on the back or the comforting hug from a bad day….
What would we do about those?  Punish to the full extent?   Bend the rules?  Make a new law?

Most of the time when we jump in to fix something and don’t weigh out the many scenarios that can… and will crop up, we find ourselves in a much worse position than if we had just dealt with the situation at hand as an individual case and not enforce a law or rule for future offenders.  That is where it looks like we are now!    Like throwing a rock in the pond…. it doesn’t just affect the spot the rock lands on… but the ripples will touch everything around it.. and depending on how big the splash.. the wider the area that is affected!!!
Your rights are important…My rights are important… but somewhere along the road we have decided that someones rights are MORE important than someone else’s….and now… we are in a huge dilemma.  How are we going to make this right again?

I remember getting a picture to color as a child.   I would try my best to make it perfect.  When I found that I had gone out of the lines… or it was the wrong color… I would try to fix it by trying to undo what I did… or expanding the lines a little farther out.  Sometimes that worked and it was hardly noticeable…and even made it more interesting.   However… there were times that it seemed like it got worse and worse as I went a long and by changing … erasing… enhancing… and what ever else I could to to “fix” it…. it became very unrecognizable as anything remotely of its original intent.   So…. the only thing I could do at this point was to just wad it up… throw it in the trash…. and start all over.

Starting over may not be an option…. but we CAN start somewhere!!!

Jesus…. is our only hope….
DON’T Ban HIM from your life!!!

Revelation 21:4-5  Amplified Bible (AMP)

God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and death shall be no more, neither shall there be anguish (sorrow and mourning) nor grief nor pain any more, for the old conditions and the former order of things have passed away.

And He Who is seated on the throne said, See! I make all things new.